Friend…The Dictionary definition: a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard. To me: a person that you have a desire to talk to, be with and spend your time with. To Aden: a person who will play with me that I can have fun with.
Why am I writing about the word friend? The word friend is one that changes definition a lot, it can change based on gender, age, location. We have people at work that we call work friends, People at school that are school friends, People at church that are school friends. Are they really friends? Do you care enough to tell them that you are praying for them when you actually are? Do you care enough to stay up till 2am because they can’t sleep? Do you care enough to let them cry, scream or fuss?
I have a friend or two that I have known forever, we went through all the things of elementary school and high school together, then we went to different colleges and we wrote but slowly we drifted apart. When we got to talk we would pick back up but life happened. Life got in the way. I have friends that I enjoy to text and chat but seeing them I freeze, not because of them but the environment so I struggle to build deeper relationships with them. I have people I want to friends with but for whatever reason it never seems to get deeper than a “hi” or a few minutes of small talk.
I am always curious as to if things were different what would happen but I think that I am going to say this… all the things that I have gone through makes me who I am… so for some it scares them away for some it keeps them from being willing to talk to me. However for others the relationship, the friendship, is started because of the experiences that I understand. I don’t shy away from people that are going through rough situations. I don’t walk away when others have. I don’t judge because of a mistake. I simply try to be the best friend that I can be. I simply try to remind them that I am not afraid of tears. I simply try to be there whenever they need to be.
See I know that friends matter, I know that people matter; I know what people say and do can make you or break you… Do you?